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Dania Beach, FL- Collective Thoughts is a blog published once a semester by our UIC students. We are pleased to present the work of our student authors. Our blog is open to an array of genres including fiction, essays, and creative writing pieces. Our blog is an open space for our UIC students to IMAGINE, CREATE, and INSPIRE as they share their creative expressions. The mission of Collective Thoughts is to provide a platform to showcase the unique voice of the developing and emerging writer and to foster the love of writing.
Nicolas Guzman Camacho, Class of 2028 reflects on how the birth of his son reshaped his priorities, transformed his perspective on work-life balance, and redefined his understanding of fulfillment.
A pivotal time in my life by Nicolas Guzman Camacho
The birth of my son, four years ago, was a turning point in my life and reshaped not only my priorities but also myself. I was used to very long hours at work, back-to-back deadlines, and not being able to say “no” through my work as a software engineer. As a matter of fact, my professional identity was closely stitched together with this unending rhythm of productivity, leaving little room for personal well-being or deeper connections.
Reflection about the big picture hardly occurred before the birth of my son. The demands of my job consumed me and made the job first priority. Days were full of tasks and responsibilities that intellectually had fed me yet physically exhausted and emotionally numbed me. The thought of balance was a far-off myth buried beneath expectations- both those I had of myself and those others had. In many ways, I was the product of the environment that I had chosen: one that rewarded dedication with success but quietly eroded the boundaries that define a fulfilling life.
The moment I held my son in my arms for the first time, everything shifted. It was like a blindfold fell off and suddenly I could see what it truly meant to be present, to fully invest in the life I was living. This tiny, fragile human was utterly dependent on me, and with that knowledge came a deep sense of responsibility- not just to his well-being, but to the kind of parent and person I wanted to be. And then, the questions I had avoided or neglected began to surface: What kind of example was I setting? What legacy was I building?
The answer to these questions proved to be quite transformational. That means! I made that very hard decision to quit my demanding job and took another one that allowed remote working. This shift in work schedule allowed me to be more present with the family, to witness the milestones and the ordinary moments that I would have otherwise missed. The healthier path that I chose then brought regular exercise into my routine and made me more conscious of how I wanted to invest my time and energy.
Looking back, the birth of my son was not only a turning point but a catalyst for transformation. It taught me about the importance of balance, time, and joy that cannot be replaced by anything else when one is present for their loved ones. Now, my priorities have shifted in ways that I could never have envisioned, and though the path to that realization was not without its challenges, the journey has proved extremely rewarding. Nowadays, I am not only a better father but also more complete and with a clearer understanding of what is truly important in this life.
